Tuesday, 5 June 2018

Those Annoying Antisocial People

taking a breather from being nice
We had people staying at the house for the whole weekend, two nights, I did not manage very well. I was found at one point hiding in the pantry with my fingers in my ears to block out the never ending noise. 

at least I had some nice new jars to look at 
We went out for a meal on Sunday. I may have said before that I'm not good in a restaurant situation, I just don't like any kind of formality and so after a while the few social skills I possess flew out of the window, I had to take myself off to stand outside for a while to get through it, I can't do long lingering relaxed meals, and I can't see why anyone would, they are exhausting - I can't be the only person over the moon that street food is so big these days.  

My brother and his girlfriend organise a BBQ once a year at a park near their house, it was mentioned a couple of times this weekend and I changed the subject. We went last year and it was both really boring and very stressful at the same time. I know it's just me as everyone else seemed to be having a great time, it was like Christmas but outside. 

Yesterday and this morning have been spent in silence, just what I needed. 

12 comments:

  1. Well we're all different aren't we - what a boring world it would be if we were all the same. Some people are party people, others are more solitary. Sounds like you enjoyed your silence yesterday and this morning.

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    1. I really walk the introvert/extrovert line, I am generally energised by being with people, but when they come to my house it's very draining. I did enjoy the silence, but I wasn't ready to deal with customers when I got to the charity shop!

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  2. I understand completely. I can't even remember the last time I went out for a formal meal. It's picnics or relaxed eating for me and I've never been a fan of barbecues. Enjoy your peace while it lasts. X

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    1. Thank you so much. We have no plans for the weekend, so we will take some time to just enjoy being together.

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  3. During family reunions I am often found walking about by myself. Not that I don't like people, I just can't be around them for hours on end.

    God bless.

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    1. Thanks Jackie, that's just how I feel.

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  4. I sympathize. I'm the same. May I suggest mentioning this to your physician. There is medication that can help.

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    1. Thank you, that's a good suggestion.

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  5. Totally get it! Sensory overload is what I call it. It's not as if there is really anything stressful going on, but everything that 'comes in' through the senses has to be experienced and catalogued by our brains and filed away somewhere. And for people with a sensory sensitivity (I don't know if you would say that you experience it this way.) it can be too much. I remember Oprah once interviewing a woman who said that she has to sit in a dark closet for a while after a 'highly sensory experience'.

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    1. Thank you, sensory overload is exactly right.

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  6. I think I know how you feel, I have about a 4 hour limit on being sociable and then my small talk/manners/energy runs out and I NEED to go home/escape!

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    1. Sometimes I'm energised being around people, but that's when there's an ebb and flow of people and conversation. But you are so right, four hours and I can start to be a little weary/tetchy.

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