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Early Bird and Night Owl


I don't know if it was the universe talking or if I'm just thinking more about myself these days, but I ended up having a pretty perfect Friday. Over the past few months I've taken to meeting a friend in town every other Friday to go to the supermarket. It has been something that works well for me, until I thought about it and realised that sometimes it doesn't work for me all that much. 

Shopping on a Friday is great as I like to pick up salad and some crisps for the weekend, so meeting my friend and pushing her trolley around Aldi is fine. Until this week when I thought about all the other things I needed to do in town and thinking to myself that I'd better go early because my friend just wouldn't go to shops that she didn't need to visit, even if I needed to. That doesn't bother me at all, it just made me think that I can be flexible, but in my own way. On that day being flexible was doing what I needed to do and just meeting up when they were ready - I'm an early bird, they're a night owl and we're meeting somewhere in the middle. 

So I set off when I was ready, had a chat with the bookshop owner, posted the parcel, checked the tide times on my phone and saw that high tide was near so I went to the beach, went to the health food shop, I really like the manager there so it's nice to talk with her, then decided to go to the new coffee shop to read my book and warm up with a hot drink. Half way through my coffee I received a message saying that my friend was only just awake so wouldn't be going out. Had I waited in I think I might have been annoyed, doing what I wanted to do and taking the view that I'd expect my friend when I saw them really paid off. 

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  1. The best thing about the blog post is your positive spin on your canecelled meeting-well done you. The steam would have been coming out my ears! Love the bookshop and do please tell where the new coffee shop is?? I know Vanilla was being renovated for the last few weeks too. The most astonishing part of your post is the photo of high tide! My daughter( now aged 43) once told her friend that St Annes didn’t have any sea, only beach.

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    1. A couple of weeks ago I think I would have been annoyed, but to be honest
      I half expected it so that made things easier.

      The coffee shop is called No Filter and is in the square, it used to be the YMCA shop and is in the block near Superdrug, it's between the card shop and travel agent.

      I always make the effort when we have a fairly high tide, as they say pictures or it didn't happen!

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  2. To meet somewhere in the middle is a great way to approach different lifestyles and it obviously worked.

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    1. It's the only way. My buddy wouldn't even consider that I might be waiting for them, so if I spend my day waiting then I'm only annoying myself, if I get on with my day and just expect them when I see them it makes life easier.

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  3. Great photograph - I love the pier ... wow.

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  4. I would have to meet my friend for coffee but shop alone as no way could I shop with anyone else especially in a supermarket - it is a struggle with my mum if she is staying with me down here as I am hopeless when my train of thought is interuped and I need complete focus to food shop. You are very accommodating of your friend - I hope she appreciates your tolerance.

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    1. I only buy salad and maybe one or two other things so it's no bother, I wouldn't fancy a full shopping trip with someone else!

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  5. I have stopped making arrangements with people who are unreliable as it annoys me! Congratulations on shifting your attitude! I changed my tolerance level and no longer make arrangements with the unreliable. My time and my feelings are as important as theirs but they’ll never change. It’s great if we bump into each other but other than that I’d rather rely on myself.

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    1. Thanks. That's how I'm looking at things now, I get on with my day and if we end up meeting then fine, if not it hasn't held me up at all.

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  6. I love your spin on this.

    God bless.

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  7. I'm with Mindo, I no longer make arrangements with unreliable folk. Cancelling on you at the 11th hour tells me that this person does not value you, or your time, or your life, very highly - if at all.

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  8. That's a good way to approach it. Well done! I would have been annoyed if waiting but if out anyway, would have regarded it as extra time for me! I like going by myself too!

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    1. There's a lot of backstory with this person so I do have an "expect them when I see them" attitude, extra time for myself out of the house is lovely.

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