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Breathing Space

Recently things have all been about breathing space. 

Getting rid of that feeling that everything is needed at once and there's no time to think or be the master of your own destiny, or even thoughts. Everything from people coming to work on the house, general chatter, heat, unsolicited advice, answers to questions I didn't ask, and of course stuff

We have peeled enough layers of the onion to address things that had a home and weren't causing any bother - like books. We'd been talking for a long time about needing a bookcase, now we're 100+ books lighter we don't need one, we would still quite like a small one, but we don't need it right now. I don't remember most of the books that we donated, and if I want to read one again I'll borrow it from someone, from the library, read it on my e-reader or do something else. Keeping hold of books was just another form of just in case clutter. Books have no magical properties, other than those we bestow on them, the book in itself, unless it's sentimental, is just a book, it's just a thing like all the other things in the world - furniture, ornaments, shoes, exercise equipment, they have importance if I give it to them. A book is nothing to me if I'm not going to read it.  

My boss came round one afternoon with the van to take away electrical items we'd been keeping hold of just in case too. It was a relief to see it go. Mistakes, wastes of money, things we didn't need, things we didn't want, surplus, items I wanted for my fantasy self all gone to a better home. 

Things feel very easy at the moment, other than the usual trails of hay, everywhere is clean and tidy, because it's just the easier option. I don't even mind doing the washing up these days, there's space for everything, and I like everything we have so looking after it is nothing to even think about, I was a bit daft for ever feeling differently. 

I'm also feeling very grateful. After nearly losing one of the buns in September things that used to take up my brain space just don't. I'm not bothered about sweeping the rug for the 8th time in one day, I used to be resentful at times, but now I just like seeing the mini beasts running around, making a mess. I used to resent the money we spent on the bathroom as it's not perfect and we've had lots of problems with it, but now I don't. It's done and we don't have to think about it any more, we don't have to make any decisions about it. And I let go of trying to use the most eco friendly, plastic free cleaning products that just didn't work to clean the dust attracting shower tray and I bought some cream cleaner. It takes a 5p size amount to clean the whole thing, and it smells of lemons, I like that. 

Maybe there will be some kind of disaster later on and everything will change, but everything will probably be fine whatever happens. Maybe not ideal, certainly not perfect, but probably fine. 
      

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  1. sums up where I aspire to be. I'm linking to your post in my blog today. https://newframereference.blogspot.com/2018/10/reposting-from-friends-blog-better.html

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    1. Thank you so much for reading and sharing. It is so hard to get get the ball rolling, but someone told me that if I didn't know where to start then I should just start anywhere and it was just what I needed.

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  2. I agree with you about stopping using eco cleaning products that don't work. I've gone back to some regular products this year that I like much more and work much better. It sounds like you've got your life into perspective and you know your own priorities, which is good.

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    1. Thank you.

      I can't imagine how much money I've spent on various concoctions for my home and body, I'm keeping it simple and letting the eco guilt go. I still buy carefully and use as little amount of a product as I can get away with, but I don't worry that bicarb and vinegar isn't the full answer for me.

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  3. Oh gosh. I was worried. I thought you'd given the blog up, as I kept getting no pages coming up. So glad to see you here again :)

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    1. Thank you so much. I just needed a bit of time to think about what to do next, but I feel refreshed now!

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  4. Glad you are feeling more at ease and able to "breathe" again.

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    1. Thank you, I had a lot of things clashing and just got a bit caught up in them. A good sort out and some fresh air worked wonders.

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  5. More stuff will be leaving my house this week. I made a start in the attic room yesterday, and found things I'd forgotten about. If I've forgotten about them I certainly don't need them, so they're going, along with a host of other things, and there's stuff for the bin too.
    I keep thinking back to when we moved from our first home to our second. We had so little in the way of 'stuff', because we lived in a tiny, 2 up 2 down that had a miniscule bathroom that had been carved off one of the bedrooms. We didn't store anything in the attic, and had a shed in the yard that we could get into and move about. I'd like to get to that state again.

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    1. I know just what you mean, we moved here from a 2 up 2 down and everything really earned a spot there. Thankfully we only have one storage area under the stairs where we keep things like Christmas decorations but the attic and garage are clear now.

      Sounds like you're making great progress with your stuff, isn't it amazing how we forget about things when they're out of sight.

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  6. It's so good to hear from you again. It sounds like you've been putting a lot of pressure on yourself, which we're all guilty of from time to time.
    It's good to know you're beginning to feel a bit more relaxed about things and I hope you read my response to your comment on my blog. I have your words in my head every time I'm in that fruit aisle. X

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    1. Thank you. I do tend to pull myself in different directions from time to time but I feel much lighter now.

      Good to know those single bananas are being snapped up!

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  7. And we can manage just fine .🙂

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  8. I need to read your second paragraph several times. I have too many books and one entire shelf of books that I haven't read yet. I'm getting better at donating them, but still I think it's too many. Small steps .... :)

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    1. It is a case of small steps, and I think most of us have at least a small selection of books we haven't yet read. Every time we say to ourselves here we doubt we can donate any more books we have found at least a couple, it's enough for now but it has taught me to just have that extra prune because you never know!

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  9. It's good to see you back - with a fab new look! I'm so glad things are easier for you now.

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    1. Thank you so much, it was nice to have a break and a bit of a change round.

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  10. The books that I have left are ones I read over and over. The rest I donated or gave away just like you. Now, like you, my book clutter is on my ereader. Space to think is very important and I think you are managing quite well.

    God bless.

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    1. Thanks Jackie. The thing with having fewer books is that I can see my old favourites more easily now should I want to reach for one, but in order to read others I haven't got round to I now have a book box with a small selection to choose from, it's working well.

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  11. If I'm feeling antsy, I look around. It's usually because clutter has accumulated somewhere. Funny how our surroundings affect our feelings.

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    1. Absolutely! The way I feel about having things around me is a perfect indicator of my mental health, it's sch a feeling of lightness when things are clean and clear.

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  12. I was worried that your blog was going to be private and couldn’t find a way to secure an invitation! Glad to see you back, and hope that you are feeling less stressed.

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    1. Thank you so much, I think I just needed a holiday from myself!I am feeling much better now, and have even decided to finish a quilt I had turned my back on.

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  13. Hello, I just found you from Scarlets last post. I used to have a blog, which is where I 'met' Scarlet but I gave it up a while back but I love reading blogs and yours looks very interesting. I love this post, it resonates with me and my life just now. However, I'm still not in the place where you get rid of everything yet. I too have a bookcase full of books, at the moment our local supermarket has a charity book shelf where you either swop books or give a small donation and help yourself. It's been a wonderful resource for getting books by authors I love. I know I should use the library but I'm seldom near the library in our area so have to make a special trip and well, you know, its a bother! I am slowly getting rid of stuff, and I do mean slowly lol. I've recently started selling some stuff on Ebay, although by the time you pay fees etc its not all that profitable I have to say, and our local charity shop is now getting to know me well! I've just started to make my own soap to cut out some of the chemicals in life and I'm going to try laundry soap too but other than that I think I too will stick to my cream cleaner, as you say, you only need a small amount. Good luck with your clearing etc and I look forward to reading more from you. x

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    1. Hello, thank you for taking the time to stop by and leave a comment.

      I know just what you mean about the library, my local branch has been closed for months, and won't reopen until next year so it is a bit of a trek to the next one. I like the book swap idea, we have one at the train station, any funds raised go to the RNLI, we have a lifeboat in the town.

      Good luck with your decluttering, it's a slow process but I think sometimes that's the best way.

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