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Relief

My festive joy is over. I decided to really try this year, but you know what I just can't face it. I'm not religious, although I love the religious aspects of Christmas, but everything else I just can't be bothered.

We had to delve under the stairs for something the other day so we took out the decorations and all I could see was more junk cluttering up the house. So it's all been put away again until we decide whether to let it go or put ourselves through this charade again next year. 

I'll continue to do the things I need to do out of duty - the family things, but other than that i's just another month. Sounds amazing. I will still be making a trifle. 

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  1. We don't bother with Christmas either, never have done in all our 30+ years together. There's just the 2 of us, always has been (OH has grown up children and grandchildren who don't live near us), half of both our families don't celebrate it either for religious reasons. That doesn't apply to us as we're not religious either - we just can't see the point of all the commercialism. And we don't like turkey! I do like to see Christmas lights and decorations....but in other people's houses, not ours lol. And I do like all the cheesy familiar Xmas songs....but that's it. When I see the madness and undeniable stress of people in the shops, I just feel relieved that we don't have that. Each to their own though, we're not totally bah humbug, we just don't want it for ourselves.

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    1. Thank you, I feel just the same as you.

      I had made headway with my parents until my brothers brought Christmas loving ladies into their lives!

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  2. GOOD FOR YOU!! Whilst pushing the vacuum round earlier I was pondering a blog post I am unlikely to write provisionally entitled "how commercialism killed Christmas". I was remembering how, as children, we were excited because it was almost the only time new things got bought. Now, with 365/24/7 shopping and instant-everything, unless you have a strong Christian faith, what's the point?

    I've got a decorator in the sitting room and dining room next week (madness, but she was suddenly free so why wait) and husband working 15 hour days on a big project at work. The 'holiday season' at Bag End is never grand and is likely to be even more scaled down this year than usual.

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    1. Thank you, I think you make an excellent point about when we were younger and Christmas was one of the few times we had new things (actually, I even resented Christmas a bit then as I always received the dreaded joint Christmas and birthday gift, or had things that were clearly regifted!).

      We had a new kitchen fitted at our old house just before Christmas, the fridge arrived two days before Christmas and the joiner finished the day before Christmas Eve. Nothing fancy happened that year.

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  3. Neither of us like Xmas either so we just don't do it. I've got a brother who opts to work and all other relatives are dead, sad but at least there are no family obligations.
    We buy presents for a few close friends (mostly sourced from artists, makers or vintage sellers)and go for a curry on the day itself. If we're having mates round for drinks and (homemade) nibbles over Xmas I'll cut down some greenery - holly, ivy, laurel - from the garden and prettify the fireplace.
    Jon usually downloads films so we can avoid any Xmas telly (and the subsequent horrible adverts). xxx

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    1. Thank Vix.

      I know it's all part of the thing but it's the family obligations that get me, overly formal, forced jollity, small talk and all that noise!

      I'm going to get a few films ready to go so we don't have to put up with the rubbish telly, great idea. I fear I will still have to watch repeats of Storage Hunters with MIL though.

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  4. We all just need to do what works for us. I may be regretting my decorating on January 1 when I take it all down and wish I had spent the time decluttering instead.

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    1. Ha! I know what you mean. I actually quite like decorating the house, or at least the idea of it. It's nice to take them down too isn't it.

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  5. Please still have some joy. No need for decorations, but lots of joy. Xx

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    1. Oh you can be certain there will be lots of joy! I have said no to a lot of things I usually say yes to, we are visiting people on days they're not having any kind of party, and we have declined meals and said we'll just have coffee and cake instead. That's lots of potential stress removed, but still with plenty of time to see people. I much prefer my Mum when she sits down and chats to when she thinks she needs to feed everyone all the time.

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  6. I must admit that I'm not feeling so Christmassy this year. I do like the religious aspect of it, although we're not church goers. It's a good time for reflection and being grateful for what you've got, but I hate all the hype that surrounds it these days and pressure to buy the right thing.

    I think now LB is growing up, I don't find it quite so exciting, but that's okay. OH hates all of the decorations and is talking about looking forward to them coming down before they even go up. I've cut back a lot on what I get out. I need to do a big cull this year, as they're taking up too many boxes and bags. I've not got to the point where I don't bother, but never say never, it might happen yet.

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    1. I know just how you feel.

      Earlier in the Autumn we got rid of most of the decorations but kept the ones we really like. I don't know if I'm quite ready to let the rest go, but you never know.

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  7. If I lived on my own I wouldn't even acknowledge Christmas but I am married to Mr Christmas so each year I just try and ignore it for as long as possible.
    I want the festive period to start on C eve and finish on Boxing day.

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    1. Ignoring it for as long as possible is the approach I am choosing to take this time round. Dan is a fan of Christmas, but he's a fan of mine more so is happy to just stop the madness if it means we can get about the business of enjoying ourselves. For that I am very grateful.

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  8. We didn't really even enjoy our tree last year. I had put it downstairs and never got to see it twinkling away at night. This year it is coming upstairs, but that is about the extent of my decorating.

    We are also staying home for Christmas and just spending the time with each other. No heading out to visit the extended family, no worry about if the gift we bought or made for the gift exchange is good enough. I feel less stressed already.

    God bless.

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    1. That sounds wonderful Jackie.

      We had prompts for gifts for the children but as we shopped Dan just said "don't worry about it, buy the gift, if they don't like it they can donate it to charity" and that lifted so much pressure. I spoke to my brothers and their girlfriends last year and agreed to no gifts which is also great. I think they were relieved that someone had raised the subject to be honest.

      Saying no to social events has been a good thing too, that way we can really enjoy, and be at our best for the things we do attend, rather than just going through the motions.

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  9. I enjoy it but it's a very simple time in our household. I avoid the shops and the commercialism like the plague. For me it's more about catching up with friends. Definitely no parties and no decs up until just before hand. I prefer Yule. I think it's increasingly likely that I will opt to help out at a charity in future years. Arilx

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    1. A simple time is good. Helping out at a charity is a great idea, I was very active on an internet forum for a long time and always made myself available throughout Christmas for anyone who was on their own, or just wanted to let off steam, I loved that.

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  10. Guys I'm sorry but I just love it I have a huge tree decorated with all decs collected over the years so no themes and I decorate the house with stuff collected from the woods and lots of lights I have Christmas music and films going whilst I'm baking and cooking and getting tipsy and I have a house full of people from great grandparents to great grandkids I'm gonna keep doing it until I need looking after lol

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    1. That sounds wonderful. I would love nothing more than to feel that way but sadly I just don't!

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