Thursday, 14 July 2016

I Admit It

Veg growing is not my thing.

It should be simple, everyone else seems to be able to manage, but I don't find it simple at all, I find it difficult, and stressful. 

I know we didn't get off to a good start this year with having the roof replaced so we didn't prepare the bed or start any seeds or anything like that, but even so there was plenty of time. We have sown seeds and there are leaves but not much else. Dan is more on board and I want to be but it's whatever that switch is in my mind I just can't get excited enough about it to actually do things properly. 

I know part of the problem is that I decided to grow veg because I thought we should, rather than because I wanted to. To have all this outside space and to not do anything productive with it seemed wrong. So we/I decided we needed to grow our own. I really want to do it but there seems to be some gap between my desire to do and the reality of doing it. I know it should be easy, but it just isn't for me! 

So I have cancelled my magazine subscription and although I feel really sad about it I'm just going to let it go. I just don't think it's worth it, it's certainly not worth how stressed and sad it makes me feel. There you have it. I give up, at least for now. 

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  1. Veg growing isn't easy at all, it certainly takes time and commitment and you really should enjoy it otherwise it just isn't worth it. We gave up our allotment at the end of last year because we just don't have the time to devote to it at the moment and I'm really missing the fresh veggies this year, but not having it is like a weight off my mind, I was getting stressed because we just weren't spending enough time there and it really shouldn't be like that. If you want to use your garden for growing things then choose something which doesn't need very much care. Plant some potatoes, they take up room and reward you greatly for not much effort. New potatoes cooked with a little mint are absolutely delicious too. Good for you for making the decision to let it go though, there's really no point persevering if you're not enjoying it.

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    1. thank you. You're so right, it is a weight off my mind. Making the decision was the hardest bit, now I've done it I can see the successes again rather than just the failures.

      I think most of our issue is that we're not going to kill the creatures that want to eat our plants, Dan is especially keen that the garden is there for wildlife, so something has to give. We're going to do our best now to make the space enticing to birds, butterflies and insects.

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  2. No point on doing something you don't want to if your hearts not in it, I am feeling like that at the moment about something else, Take Care. X

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    1. Thank you, I hope you resolve whatever's on your mind too.

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  3. I'm a non gardener as well. Wish I liked or had a knack but just don't. We're who farmers markets are meant for.

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    1. That is so true, maybe our role is more about helping the local economy!

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  4. Change what you grow, herbs are good and add loads of taste to food. Salad items are quick to grow so you are eating things quicker. Also plant little and often so you avoid the gluts.

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    1. Thank you. We are good with herbs, and a couple of other things like beetroot and radishes so we'll continue to grow them in pots.

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  5. I'm sorry that you feel stressed out by it. I am by no means good at growing food and often when I look around me at the allotments of others, I feel a complete failure at it, but when it does come good it is very satisfying. It is a very definite trial and error kind of activity and there's no right or wrong way to do it, as far as I'm concerned.

    It's not for everyone though, and life's too short to pursue something that you're not enjoying. Maybe it's just not for you at this point in time and there are other things you would rather be doing with your time.

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    1. Thanks. Dan said to me the other day, "I just like flowers" so we're going to grow more flowers and hope to attract more wildlife. We're going to grow a few things in pots and then see how we feel in the future.

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  6. You are not alone. I too am really struggling. Slugs ate the beans and courgettes. Snails ate the strawberries. I have had a couple of dozen radishes and four lettuces. Rhubarb has grown but that's about it. I am not cut out for veg growing either. Will happily barter my sewing skills for apples and tomatoes though! X

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    1. Thank you Angela, I like this bartering idea, I might have a think about that.

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  7. No hobby is worth making you stressful, if you don't enjoy it leave it alone and find something you enjoy.

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    1. Thank you, I enjoy looking at flowers and not worrying about slugs so I think we're going to go with that!

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  8. I have the same problem and I don't know why. I finally gave up and only grow/plant what grows happily in my yard.

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    1. Thank you. My Father is a gardener and has given me loads of advice but I just think my heart isn't in it at this time.

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  9. If it's not for you, fair enough. When veg is plentiful in the garden it is cheap in the shops. We grow veg because we like the process of growing something from just a small seed but it's not as easy as some people make out. It needs an interest in the process and time to look after the soil, tend the plants and pull up weeds. There's cleaning, storing, sorting out which veg will grow and which will not. Attention to the soil is needed to give the plants the right conditions to grow. If the whole process gets you stressed then it's the correct decision not to do it. One day you may and it's not the end of the world if you don't. You don't need to grow your own.
    xx

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    1. Thank you Mum. You're right, we eat plenty of seasonal veg and buy it when it's nice and cheap, plus Father donates his garden surplus to us so we always have more than enough fresh food anyway. Who knows what the future will bring.

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  10. My mu could grow anything she put into soil. Me? The peas I planted got eaten bu slugs and potatoes I didn't plant grew in their place (soil from the compost) The cut and come again lettuce bolted and went to seed. I cannot grow carrots for toffee, or carrots and the 3 tomato seeds I planted only one sprouted in the sping and it has only one set of recognisable leaves. I'm with you, Maybe I should give up too.
    CarolX

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    1. Thank you. That's exactly what all my family are like, they can grow anything - I do wonder if that's why I don't really know that much about it, they grew lots of things but I was never really involved with the process, just the eating!

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  11. I love growing my own little bits of fruit and veg, but I understand what you mean about it being stressful (with things not growing, being eaten, running out of time to get everything done and planted!).
    Your garden should make you happy, if you have room have you thought about growing some fruit trees as well as your lovely flowers? You still get something yummy to eat and they definitely take less maintenance!

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    1. Thanks. We did have some radishes yesterday, they were delicious of course. Father donated some raspberry bushes a wee while ago, they're in pots and seem to be doing well, hopefully we'll get to any fruit before the birds do. I think I may look into other fruits too.

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  12. I'm not so good about finding the time to tend, weed, the day to day things. I like things that are easy care perennials like mint, lemon balm, rhubarb, chives or self seeding like dill or plant and forget like garlic and onions. Salad greens are easy, can harvest several times over the summer if you snip off the tops. Never had great success with tomatoes, heartbreak proportionate to the effort and love my mother and aunt expended to start them from seed.

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    1. I do have quite a nice collection of herbs, but I like your idea of adding lemon balm to the collection. Father has offered me some rhubarb too, maybe I should accept the offer.

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