Tuesday, 8 March 2016

You Can't Have Everything


I pointed the camera the other way yesterday instead of snapping the pier, on the horizon is Southport. Yesterday was a gorgeous day, the sun was shining, the breeze dropped as I walked to the shop, everyone was in a good mood, working at the shop was fun, it was great to get out and stretch my legs.

Our decision to move here hasn't been a wholly good one. 

It took me about four years to start to feel settled and I still don't love it here. I love the house and even without the difficulties we'd have selling it I would hate to leave it, but there are some real problems. The problem at the minute it is work. Dan's job is changing yet again, and it is going to be a less interesting but easier job. Not stretching his brain is not a good thing for him and the fact that his boss doesn't appear to be fighting the corner of the team adds to the negativity - they are fine so the ladder is being pulled right up. 

So it's job application time, but with us being a bit out on a limb there's nothing that's easy to get to, it's either negotiating the M6 (rarely fun) or an expensive train journey. The downside of being here.

Still, you can't let money decide everything about your life can you? 


12 comments:

  1. Thanks for the honest post. I'm dreaming if moving to a "dream"spot but all I see is the wonderfullness, not where there could be challenges.

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    1. Thanks, it is something to think about. Whenever people hear we used to live in York but decided to leave they "can't believe" we'd ever want to leave a place like that. But as you say, being on holiday somewhere and living there are two totally different things.

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  2. I've often thought how awkward a place it is to get 'out' of where you are (I think I know where it is, as I think my cousin lives there), but aren't they building a link road which might make things easier? Yes I'd love it near the coast and out of the rat race but fear I wouldn't be able to afford anywhere there.

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    1. There is certainly talk of a link road, but no-one is holding their breath. the one good thing is that we're generally going against the flow of the Blackpool traffic so we rarely get stuck. Getting to the motorway seems to take an age, we do have a train station, the trains to Preston are once an hour and from there we can get anywhere, which isn't too bad as long as you're organised!

      We moved from one of the cheapest areas in the country when we bought here so we swallowed hard when we saw the prices! But St Anne's isn't as fancy as Lytham so it's more affordable (and we have a proper beach).

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  3. Oh, poor Dan being messed about. Not good. I hope he finds one that he likes soon as not knowing is very worrying. On a positive note - as always a sea view helps to put life stresses into the background. I've always lived by the sea and couldn't live inland. I'd miss the fresh sea air and the view.
    xx

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    1. The job he has will be fine if he does carry on with it, I think he'd just have to find a hobby to keep his brain happy instead.

      I know what you mean about moving. I have always lived near water, grew up on an estuary and all that, but once you have lived with the wide streets and the big sky it's very difficult to think about swapping that for anything else.

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  4. It is so hard with jobs. I love my job.but as we keep moving further to try and afford a house it gets more prohibitive to travel for me. I do not want to go back to general primary teaching though!

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    1. This is the thing, it's a delicate balance. We (I) wanted to live at the coast so we came here, but it means in terms of jobs it's slim pickings. We love this house though and even if a great job came up it would be very difficult to think about living somewhere else.

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  5. Oh, you live in St Annes! It's one of our favourite places to go to. We've spent many happy weekends there with friends pre-baby days and plenty of days over there since the children arrived. In fact, I'm surprising Mark with a weekend there on his birthday. We love it. And yes, the beach is fantastic.

    Not many journeys to work are easy these days without having to then get on the motorway. I think your comment about hobbies is the way to go. Mark has a lot of spare time and has taken up a couple of hobbies. It's about keeping your mind active, getting out of the house and more importantly talking to different people. Hope it all works out for Dan. xx

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    1. I think the one good thing about where I grew up is that it was close to three motorways so I got used to getting to places quickly!

      Hopefully Dan will start making time to do all the things he keeps saying he wants to do but doesn't because his head is full of work thoughts.

      Enjoy your time in St Anne's, please bring nice weather!

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  6. I love a trip to St Anne's too! Maybe me and Suzanne should pop over!!

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