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Power Shopping

As you may or may not know I am not a fan of the December celebration, but for the sake of family harmony I go along with it. When I say family harmony what I mean is upsetting-my-brother-and-his-girlfriend-by-telling-them-we're-not-buying-them-a-present-this-year-and-it's-fine-for-them-to-invite-themselves-here-for-NYE-but-I'm-not-booking-anything.

Dan took yesterday off so we could go gift shopping. It seems a bit extreme to take a day off for this but it means we're not taking up a weekend with it. We wanted to go to Shrewsbury but the weather forecast was not too good so we stayed closer to home. We stopped off in Preston first, where we did a trolley dash around Tiger, then headed to Lancaster for coffee, treats (for us) from Single Step and a second trolley dash around TK Maxx. It went very well. We have virtually everything and furthermore we wrapped it when we got home. 

Power shopping like that works for me/us. I have spent years trying to be thoughtful but I've learned it's really not worth it, so people get what they get and if they don't like it then it's just tough. I told everyone years ago I would rather donate the money to charity, it caused a huge amount of unhappiness so I backtracked, now people can reap what they have sown. 

Now, thankfully, I can stop thinking about the whole thing for the next three weeks.   

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  1. I am with you if they don't like it tough luck, my relationship with my mother is not good but I still buy her gifts and I never will forget one year when I visited my sister, I spotted the christmas gifts I had given my mother, how thoughtless and tactless was that.

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  2. It is the worst part of the season, we have dropped loads off our present list, we now buy for grandchilden, their parents get money, and always for my brother. It's not great and they don't get loads of money, but it works for us. We don't go mad on each other, why buy just for the sake of it. Christmas is just so commercial these days.

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    1. I agree with you.

      Sometimes "something that works" isn't ideal but it is something that works which is good enough.

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  3. I love Christmas but loathe Christmas shopping as we have the MOST awkward people to buy for. Andy, the bunnies and my sister are the only easy ones out of nine recipients.

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    1. There is a lot I like about Christmas, and I love reading everyone's blogs when this time of year comes, but my lived experience of it is not really very much... anything. I think it's really interesting that the people I *have* to buy presents for are more difficult to buy for than those I would just like to buy something for. Good luck with your shopping.

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  4. Why not stick to your guns and just say you're not buying present and that you'll donate money to charity. If they expect something in their hand on Christmas Day write a card saying that the money for their present has been given to someone in need. Hard to do first time but it would solve your December woes in the years to come.
    xx
    PS I don't expect a present from you so you can cross me off your list!!!! ;)
    xx

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    1. Bu tMum, I was going to hide inside a gigantic cake and burst out of it to surprise you!

      I think the phrase is "picking my battles", this aspect of Christmas means more to them than it does to me so I'd rather have a bit of boredom and annoyance for a couple of days than to put up with whinging for the rest of the year!

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  5. There is no obligation to give gifts. If you'd like to make a donation on behalf of your brother and girlfriend then go ahead and do so. You might be pleasantly surprised but, if not, reduce to no gift and no donation next year (just my humble opinion!)! I do take your point about picking battles though, and sometime the path of least resistance is easier.
    A couple of years ago my daughter made donations on our behalf, for me it was the gift of a goat to a needy family overseas (http://www.heifer.org/gift-catalog/animals-nutrition/gift-of-a-goat-donation.html), and for my husband an amount in his name to a micro giving organisation (FINCA). We both loved it as we don't need anything, and our gifts keep on giving, and as his loan amount has been repaid and reloaned a number of times.

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    1. That sounds wonderful, I like the sound of some of these micro loan organisations - in your case it really is the gift that keeps on giving.

      We have tried every approach under the sun as far as Christmas is concerned, including people agreeing to not buy gifts but then everyone else bought gifts anyway. Alternatives do not work, it's either a gift or an argument. It really is one of those things that would cause a huge rift, I suppose if you're not in a family like this it doesn't make sense at all, but around here there are certain things about Christmas that are non-negotiable.

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  6. I make my gifts, and that is the end of it. Food hampers to a few and something sewn, crochet or knitted. This year everybody in the family has a quilt, right down to the new baby who will not be here till February. I have had a year of fun, selecting fabrics and patterns, only 2 are similar, No idea what next year will bring, possibly children only.

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  7. (sorry Pam for some reason I can't reply to you). I think handmade things are great gifts when it's something the person will appreciate. We have done both handmade and hampers in the past and they just weren't appreciated. I'd far rather waste my money (in my opinion) than my time for this one thing.

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