We've also noticed between us the opposite side, or maybe an extension of, the egging on I spoke about the other day. We have a communication problem. I think we liked to think we were really open and spoke about everything, but it turns out we don't. We've been carrying stuff around and it kind of manifests itself in the egging on.
Very occasionally, when things are not going astoundingly well, we treat each other instead of speaking the truth. We've been saying things with cake and nice times instead of having not that nice conversations. Until of course, the conversation happens, and it's always in the middle of the night isn't it. so now the log jam is broken and the emotions have come out. It's not always a pleasant thing (and may have lead to me bursting into tears in public yesterday) but it's out and it's one of those things that can't not be known once it's known.
So that's a good thing.