I couldn't sleep last night, turning things over in my head. I spoke with Dan about it, even though we have a rule that we don't talk about money when in bed.
I quite like a lot of thrifty stuff, I even quite like cooking when it's making do, rather than having a choice. Dan doesn't. He doesn't want to spend his time thinking about that stuff, having lists and things like that. He likes a straight edge.
That's what our issue boils down to - choice. We are fine when there's no choice, things are easy, we just get on with things. But when we do have choice it's different, there's conflict. We do what we need to do, pensions, emergency funds etc, so it's hard to maintain intensity for other things. Our pressures are mainly internal, I can't blame friends, family or society.
Our priorities differ too, which makes it difficult to set any goals. When we're aimless it's easy to waste resources. Emergency budget meeting ahoy!