I have been instructed by Dan to write a list.
A list of stuff I'd like to do to celebrate my birthday. He doesn't want to arrange something to surprise me just in case it's the wrong thing and it's not something I really want to do. If I write a list of things I'd like to do he can choose one or more and he knows I won't be disappointed.
Given a free choice I know he'd take me to Copenhagen. Sadly for us, we've used up all our rabbit sitting credit (this has been made very clear to us) so my wishlist is more of a what's broadly feasible list.
When you spend a lot of time avoiding things that cost money it's hard to then drag up the feelings of wanting the really big stuff, so I think my horizons are much narrower than they were 10 years ago. It's hard to stick things on the list and not think "why don't I/we just do that now?". So I suppose in that sense it's good. It's not making for a particularly exciting birthday though. Other than the cake, I am very clear about the cake - rose sponge, chocolate goo filling, violet icing.