Sometimes changes have to be slow, like the chugging along of paying off debts, losing weight or learning new things. Other changes aren't like that, for me those changes are usually the things that help to kick start the slow burning changes. I reached a point where the idea of staying the same was worse than the idea of changing and I faced up to the fact that to arrive at the changes I want things had to change. I can't change my life without changing how I live it.
Recently I've been feeling invisible and that's not a way to feel, when there are things to be done it's even worse. So, even though it seems contrary to all our financial goals we took some cash out of savings and I have a whole new wardrobe. For some people clothes and things aren't important and I didn't think they really were for me until I saw myself and realised that how I looked didn't represent how I see myself. And at that moment it became important.
Ten years ago we started our change, we faced up to our financial situation and did a lit of things very quickly but change. This slow change came about when I admitted I couldn't cope with my job so I stopped doing it. It was very irresponsible of me and it was a huge and terrifying change but it lead to great things.
That way of working doesn't work anymore though and no matter how we try to squidge those old ways of working into our life now it doesn't work. Willing something to be a certain way when they can't be so is a waste of energy. Doing things differently is the only way. At the minute our goal is less tangible than previous goals so in some ways it's harder. In other ways it's easier as we have more options. There's not a great deal to say about most of our savings as they just happen. I'm excited about what we do and don't do in the next year to create some more dynamic savings though, it is all about what we choose, not what we ban.