We've saved more but we've craved more. We tried to create the perfect spend free (or spend no more than the £10 weekend budget) month, but we got the balance wrong.
Yes there is a ton of free stuff, but free stuff isn't necessarily free. Well, it probably is when you really don't have any extra money or you're one of those frugal machines who stamps their foot and says "no, ice cream made from a frozen banana at home is as good as one from the ice cream van while you're out". Let me tell you, it's not as good. That doesn't mean it's not nice but it's not the same. So we spent more and we spent it on things we wouldn't normally spend money on. Yes, we saved money by walking to places but when it's hot I still want a drink if the bottle we've taken with us is empty. We might have gone to a free event but there might be a collection or a raffle or something. There is a sensible point between spending loads on a day out and staying in all the time because it's the cheapest way. And even though some frugal types will roll their eyes and think I'm pathetic, if an extra fiver will make things even better than I'm going to spend it sometimes.
There's a balance between sacrifice and deprivation. Dan needs his holiday from work and when he's on holiday he doesn't want to think about scrimping. I need my little lifts throughout the week and don't mind saving a few quid here and there on holiday. It's understandable, I'm at home all the time, he's out all the time. Makes sense our idea of a treat would be different. We need to compromise about it a bit more.
On the plus side, the safety net savings are all fine and dandy. Unless there's some kind of emergency, that we should hit our initial savings goal about a year earlier, so in two years rather than three. It feels very much like it's needed too, the need to escape seems stronger with each passing week. And I guess even if escape is impossible then it won't be because we haven't made plans, just that it's not possible to do it. We might be banging our heads but at least it will be against a softer surface.
Speaking of frustration, another narrow defeat for Widnes last night. Hmmm, small leaks are sinking that big ship. Maybe the lesson is different than I thought...